https://github.com/dbeley/awesome-lemmy#mobile--desktop-apps

In addition to gathering feedback, I would also strongly recommend trying multiple clients to find one that suits your preferences. It is a relatively friction-free experience.

From my limited testing of tailscale a while back, I don’t see any reason it wouldn’t work. Saw no reason to switch from my wireguard setup.

It’s pretty much everywhere Plex is. The main issue is that it’s trickier to set up for sharing outside your LAN.