Flamekebab

Can’t even not be an arse when shown how. Jog the fuck on.

He was scanning the horizon!

I think my initial comment would have been easy to engage with in good faith rather than the route you took.

After that you could easily have gone with something like “Looks like we got off on the wrong foot, I wasn’t trying to dismiss people’s experiences…” and attempted a mood reset rather than doubling down.

Look at this, you’ve got me doing your thing for you, almost like I already do what you suggested as a matter of course.

I could keep this going, ask some rhetorical questions, make some snide remarks, but honestly, this is boring. I wanted to delve into the differences in our outlooks on social experiences, not deal with whatever this is.

Ultimately, the point is that I find your dismissal of my experiences both massively condescending and the way you choose to do it hugely insulting. Particularly when doing so actively undermines your premise.

We could have had a nice chat about how different people experience different social situations, how forming connections can be one sided, and related interesting things.

But no, I’m apparently shit at socialising because I’m different from you. If I was better at it, everyone and their gran would invigorate me socially, I just need to try harder, because everyone works like that and nuance doesn’t fucking exist.

Fire up those magical social skills of yours as you’re making a pig’s ear of this interaction.

Keep digging, mate.

It’s certainly nice when it happens, but relying on it seems inadvisable.

I’m impressed, you’ve managed to insult me whilst also insisting that only your opinion is correct.

I’m humbled by your uncanny social skills. Teach me, sensei.

That’s certainly one way to brush aside any nuance to how social situations work.

I kinda question the basic premise - whilst it’s nice to have friends at work, it’s better to build a social life outside of work. If you’re not gelling with people socially at work, oh well, it’s just work, it’s what you do to pay the bills.

There’s people I socialise with that fulfil my needs for socialisation. There’s a few of those.

Then there’s people that I can socialise with just fine, make sure they have a nice time, but it doesn’t fulfil my needs whatsoever. There’s loads of those.

I’m glad this stuff works for you, but you don’t speak for everyone’s social wiring.