• yesman@lemmy.world
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    5 hours ago

    If the marriage is sexually exclusive, why would you care? If the marriage was open, why would you care? If you’re worried about infidelity, then what gender they might choose still seems like a trivial issue.

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      Sexuality seems like a thing to have discussed before you arrange a marriage.

      Its different if someone has not realized or accepted their queerness and comes out years later. But right after the honeymoon feels nasty. Its the kind of move a manipulator uses, omit telling information that could cause others to make different choices then those that align.

      I’d wonder what other secrets there are.

      • hemko@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        I don’t really understand what the difference there would be a spouse, if their other half is het or bi. What should matter is that they chose you

      • Jessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        There’s a stigma around bisexuals, that they are promiscuous. I did not tell my ex that I was bi at all, because she and I were exclusive the whole time we were together. It was years after our divorce that I came out as trans.

        I was so worried that she would have rejected me if she knew that about me. I was happy with our life we had together, and I never strayed, so why should I have to disclose that if I don’t want to?

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        If your partner not being 100% hetero is a dealbreaker for someone they should maybe ask about it before marriage? Although in this case it wouldn’t have helped, since the sender says her husband says he didn’t know until then (while calling him a liar). Sometimes people don’t understand their sexuality until later in life, I dunno what to tell you.

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      It does hurt the odds though, double the chances to cheat.

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    The bisexuality doesn’t bother me. It’s the poor communication. Plus, now there are major trust issues.

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    Saying so after the wedding is a douche move. He probably should have mentioned it earlier in the relationship.